Wednesday, April 27, 2022

Childism is alive and well...



Childism is alive and well. It exist because, people have allowed it to exist. Children don't have a single ounce of control or right to their own life, but are suddenly expected to "be adults" when they're 18 years old.

Even though I shouldn't be, I'm always shocked at what parents robotically do to their children, just because it's an accepted societal practice... There are parents who don't agree with certain things, but do it anyways because, someone of authority-like said so... I think back to the time I was so vocal about the wrongdoings of my daughter's Intermediate school and the parents just said things like, "well, the school knows best." Or, "kids need harsh discipline."

But, what really boils my blood is this trend that seems to occur in my region (I'm not sure if this exist everywhere)... Dentists who won't allow a parent back with their child - even if that child is 2 years old.

Personally, I wish every family would get up and walk out of every dentist, who doesn't allow a parent back with their child.

The reason this exists is, because it's allowed...

You'd never let your 5 year old go back to a doctor's appointment all alone without you there - and a dentist is so much more frightening to children.
Hell, a child isn't even allowed to be legally questioned without an adult present.

I stand by two schools of thought... There are two reasons an adult wants to be alone with a child and not have the parent there - 1, They are being aggressive towards that child and they don't want the parent to see. Or, 2, they're being nefarious... Otherwise, it wouldn't matter.

It blows my mind the level of conditioning that occurs to separate children from their families. We're conditioned to believe that it's normal to hand over our 6 week old baby to daycare staff. And, we are conditioned to believe that putting our children in an institution with full control over your child and YOU for 13 years, is a rite of passage and something that will make them succeed.

Children are ours to protect and keep safe... But somehow, they are the lowest rung of society. They put all their blind trust and love into adults. And yet, adults keep failing them.

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Sunday, April 3, 2022

The fleeting days of childhood...



The one thing every parent has in common is, they feel like there is never enough time...

Time seems to pass at an alarming rate when we have children. But, there is also a chaotic mixture of watching the clock tick by and wondering where the day went.

Parents are caught between work, errands, piles of never ending laundry, dishes, and every other facet of adulting, while trying to find time for their children.

Balance is hard.

Some either lean to one side or the other. But, very few parents have figured out the perfect mixture.

So, I'm here to remind you to put down the laundry and stuff it into the nearest closet. Use it as a dresser for the next few days and pull clean clothes out of it. Or shove it hastily into drawers - I don't care what you do with it. But, put down whatever you're doing and go make some connections with your children.

Go build blocks on the floor with them. Run through the rain. Swing on some swings. Have a dance party. Or, jump on a scooter and have some races - like I am doing in this photo.

Be a kid, with your kids!

Whatever it is, take the time to get onto your child's level and be present in the moment with them. Even if it's just for a little bit - quality is so much better than quantity.

It's true that they'll never remember how clean the house was or how perfectly folded the clothes are. But, they will remember the day you raced them on a too-small-for-you-scooter and lost, by a lot... They'll remember the moments they laughed so hard, they fell over... They'll remember the nights you let them stay up past their bedtime for a backyard fire... Or, the times you attempted a flip on the trampoline (and didn't succeed)...

That's what they'll remember from childhood.

There isn't a pause button that we can click, so we can finish that last dish in the sink - as your child is trying to tell you a story about their favorite character from Mickey Mouse... Instead, the endless mundane cycles of adulthood will always remain. But your child won't be this age forever...

Go enjoy it❤


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